Do you ever find yourself asking if you’re a bad person? Maybe it’s because of something you did or said, or perhaps it’s just the way that other people are treating you. Sometimes we need to hear what others think about us so we can know how they see us – and sometimes, we need to be told that everything is going to be okay and that no matter what happens, we’ll always have someone on our side.
This post is for when you’re not sure if your worth as a human being has been compromised. From my personal experience with self-doubt and insecurity, I’m here to tell you that you are not a bad person! And this blog will help show you why by exploring some of the reasons why you might be asking yourself that question in the first place.
I know that it is extremely easy to fall into a hole of self-doubt and allow your feelings about yourself to diminish as time passes because I’ve been there myself. But here’s the thing: I’m not alone, and neither are you! Everyone goes through rough patches at one point or another. Some are less severe than others, but they’re all rooted in our beliefs about ourselves – which begins with how we were raised by our families, communities, and society as a whole.
When we begin this journey of self-discovery – whether it’s within ourselves or through other people – we will inevitably encounter things that may make us uncomfortable. Our past beliefs about ourselves will emerge, whether we like them or not. Our past choices and experiences that have affected our feelings will often force their way to the surface, awaiting our reaction.
Nearly everyone has these moments of self-doubt and questioning their worth as human beings at some point in their lives. If you’re asking yourself, “Am I a bad person?” your subconscious might be trying to tell you something important – but it’s also possible that nothing is wrong at all! It could just be one of those dark periods that every person goes through when they are inside their minds with no distractions from society or the world around them, but there’s no reason for the things we encounter during this time to stress us out or damage our self-esteem. If we take a deep breath and look at the bigger picture, it will be much easier to recognize that these doubts are just toying with our emotions and trying to get us down because they can’t stand for there to be an empowered woman out. They are there doing things in this world!
It would be best if you never forgot whenever your mind tells you that you’re not good enough because negativity isn’t real. It’s all just your inner voice talking when you aren’t paying attention because it wants to bring you down so you won’t accomplish the things that matter most. This article is meant to equip women like yourself with insights on how true confidence is achieved, including keeping negative thoughts and feelings as bay as much as possible.
I know that it’s easier said than done when you’re sitting there asking yourself if you’re a bad person or not. But the more you practice these positive affirmations to yourself in your mind, the more likely it is that they will become automatic whenever those doubts pop up like cobwebs and lay eggs on your brain – causing you constant frustration! These thoughts are a surefire way to waste time wondering why you aren’t good enough for whatever reason, which will then turn into negativity about yourself – so keep reading to learn how to stop this vicious cycle!
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The Self-Doubt Cycle: Why Am I Bad? – and How Do I Stop It?
One of the most effective ways to stop this cycle of self-doubt is to recognize it as soon as it happens because you might not always be aware that it’s happening in the present moment, either. The more aware we can become of our thoughts and emotions, the less likely we will be to get wrapped up in the negative ones – which allows us to exercise some level of control over them before they take over! And that’s pretty much what we have here: a way for you to gain that little extra bit of power by taking back what belongs to you.
Let me explain: When these dark periods occur and ‘it’ shows up (the self-doubt/bad person voice), let yourself be there with it – but don’t believe it! You might not always be able to do this, depending on how strong and persistent the voice is, but remember that you can’t be self-doubting yourself into feeling guilty or worthless about the things you choose to do with your life. Your inner critic is just an angry kid who wants attention, and when we pay attention to those thoughts, they get what they’re looking for: more fuel for the emotional fire.
When we give the negative thoughts control, we allow them to keep attacking our self-esteem – but if we practice not listening and letting them drown out the positive ones, they will eventually go away! This means that whenever doubt comes up in your mind – and it will! – don’t feed it by giving it power through our emotions. It’s okay to feel whatever you’re feeling (as long as it isn’t causing harm to others), but just because a thought pops up in your head doesn’t mean that it has to have any power over you.
Take Control of Your Thoughts Through Affirmations
The best way to avoid going over those negative thoughts, again and again, is to keep them at bay through positive affirmations. These are phrases that you can tell yourself as often as possible throughout the day to overcome self-doubt and keep your worries at bay. The trick with affirmations is that they offer an efficient way of changing our self-talk because they’re a matter of fact: if you say it to yourself and believe it, you’ll feel better! Just reading these affirmations isn’t going to be enough on its own, however, so we have to become proactive in choosing them and repeating them as often as possible for them to make any difference at all.
Try these out:
“No matter what, I’m always doing my best.”
“I have the right to make mistakes. If that’s what I choose to do each day, then so be it.”
“I deserve love and happiness just like anyone else does.”
“There is no way that I can screw up this badly, in such a short amount of time.” (when you’re faced with an awkward situation, for example)
The trick to choosing the right affirmations is that they should represent things that are important to you – and that you can see yourself saying each day without feeling phony. It’s also essential to tell them to yourself and believe them as often as possible – otherwise, they will have no natural effect! Practice makes perfect! These are just some examples that I’ve come up with off the top of my head.
So if you’re looking for a way to stop the cycle of negative thoughts that come up whenever you feel bad about yourself, start by finding an extra 5 minutes every day to be positive. Take these moments to practice affirmations, then choose any other activities you’d like for the rest of the time – but remember that what you’re doing is a way of taking back your power and stopping yourself from feeling guilty about how you live your life. Your doubts will always persist, but they don’t have to control you – with a bit of practice, you can learn to take them on and overcome them every time.