In essence we’re all jugglers, right? As life happens and we happen upon it, we’re constantly trying to find the time, seek balance, do it all, let it go, be present…the list goes on. And especially as the holiday season approaches, we may be stretched thinner than ever with various festive commitments.
Our motto here at Clementine is (and always has been) to be real and to meet you where you are in your authentic-sometimes-frenzied-often-harried-but-always-inspired life. So even as we chat about balance, time and the never ending battle to grasp its fleeting nature, do understand that we don’t have the answer. (Apologies!)
But the good news is you have the answer—we’re just here to encourage you to discover what it is you needed all along. We’re here to give you pause to listen to your heart and find the inspiration to make a change (as needed). Or to just remind you that yes, though time may be elusive, she’s worth squeezing for every last drop.
So here is what we suggest when you find yourself wishing, hoping and trying to find more seconds, minutes and hours in the day:
Embrace where you are. So you have small children or (and!) are working 50 hour weeks. (No time? Us either.) Maybe instead of wishing for different circumstances take stock of where you are and what you have to work with. Accept constraints and work within them.
Check your perspective. Even the most optimistic of us can fall prey to the downward spiral: there’s never enough time, I’m out of time, why aren’t there more hours in the day? Chin up and keep trying. 24 hours is, actually, a lot of hours.
Think big picture. Instead of lamenting over not being able to find the time today, think of all the time you have in your life. Then decide what is truly important. What impacts your life? Find time for those things.
Trim the fat. You know those mindless activities we find ourselves engaged in that deplete instead of restore? Give them up. Be mindful of where you are "losing" hours, minutes even (it all adds up) and try to regain this time through meaningful work.
Do more, do less. Find your sweet spot when it comes to how you work best with the time you do have. If you need to schedule more to keep you go go going to accomplish it all, do that. If you need to schedule mini-breaks to breath in order to get it done, do that.
Focus. But when you’re in, be all in. So you found time to write. Then write. Or do the laundry. Well, do it, fold it, put it all away for heaven’s sake. If you focus on the task at hand and complete said task, you’ll feel much better for it. Don't fracture your time.
Take an hour. Give yourself one hour, consistently and every week, that is yours to do with what you choose. It will show up as a relief and as a pass to do whatever you want to do. Your time, essentially.
Do what works for you and your family and your circumstances. Enough with sizing up, comparing and the green-eyed monster. Be true to your lifestyle, your choices and what makes you and yours happy. Make time for that.
Let the guilt go. Spare yourself the beat down of coulda, woulda, shoulda. You have a beautiful life—having any time is enough to be thankful.
Bottom line: though it may not feel like it, your time is your time. Make choices that reflect this. Discovering what works for you may take time, in essence, so be kind to yourself along the road to balance. Recalibrate often and as necessary. But regardless of how you choose to find the time this holiday season and beyond, remember Doris Lessing's sage advice on the here and now: “Whatever you’re meant to do, do it now. The conditions are always impossible.”
p.s. Need a boost? Try these tips for empower yourself and your day!