How To Discover Your Love Language

Discovering your Love Language using Gary Chapman's book, "The 5 Love Languages."

Ahhh, February. The month dedicated to the feeling Aristotle described as being "composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies" can veer into cheesy territory these days. Don't you think? While Valentine's Day has come and gone—along with its red roses, heart-shaped boxes of chocolate and prix fixe dinner menus—we've found an interesting resource that taps into the serious business of making relationships work.

Let us tell you, dear Clementines, bestselling author Gary Chapman and his book "The 5 Love Languages" piqued our interest in a way we hadn't quite expected. The book covers five different profiles that help us discover our preferred way of giving and receiving love, which—though the concept may seem obvious to some—struck us as a brilliant way to help bolster communication in all of our relationships.

The 5 Love Languages include:

  • Words of Affirmation – "This language uses words to affirm other people."

  • Acts of Service – "For these people, actions speak louder than words."

  • Receiving gifts – "For some people, what makes them feel most loved is to receive a gift."

  • Quality Time – "This language is all about giving the other person your undivided attention."

  • Physical Touch – "To this person, nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch."

If you're interested in learning which Love Language you prefer, you can take a quick  survey and get a report sent right to your inbox. So try it! Then ask your friends, family members and significant other to play along. Learning more about yourself and your loved ones can't be too painful, right?

p.s.Show yourself a little love while you're at it.